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Easy Ways To Make Plans

Plans generally form in two ways—either through common interest in a conversation and a follow up, or through planning and inviting.
 
If you’re in a conversation with someone and you start to discuss a mutual interest, you could be in the workings of making plans.
 
For example, let’s say you’re talking with someone and they mention a band that you both like.  Then, they mention that a concert’s coming up.
 
There you go. The opportunity to make plans is knocking at the door.
Or, let’s say you’ve always wanted to try the authentic Mexican restaurant in town.
 
There you go. Another opportunity to make plans is knocking.
 
So once you’ve recognized the opportunities, how do you go about setting the plans in motion?
 
First, determine whether or not they have free time.
If you don’t want your plans to get rejected, the best way to go about making them is to determine whether or not they have free time.
 
Often your plans will be shot down simply because the other person already has plans that day.  If you make sure they have an opening BEFORE making plans, they’ll be more likely to join in. 
 
When you bring to mind that block of free time and then propose they fill it, you’ll experience a much higher success rate (and you won’t have to hear them turn your plans down).  The transition will be much smoother.
 
If you don’t first establish that they’re free, they might turn your plans down even if they’re not doing anything.
 
Plus, asking them if they’re free is coming from a mentality of abundance rather than scarcity. You will elicit thoughts of being free rather than thoughts of how they’re busy that day.
 
Here are the steps:
  1. Establish that they don’t have plans for a specific block of time. “Are you free next weekend?”  It’s best to ask when they’re free, but you can also establish this when fishing for something to do. “What are you up to tonight?”
  2. If you get the OK, propose your plans. If not, tell them what you were going to invite them to do.  If they’re still interested, THEY will figure out the time that they’re free.  Otherwise, they’ll say, “no, I can’t make it,” and you can move on.  Be indifferent.
  3. If they’re interested, get their contact info and follow through with your plans.
These ideas should get the ball rolling.  If you're looking for more ways of going about making plans, then I suggest you get a copy of my ebook, Start Socializing.
 
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